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As our time for leaving Indiana rapidly approaches, there’s a touch of anxiety in the air. Not only from our side (being that we’re going to travel over 2000 miles in the vehicle with our toddler, again), but also on the part of my extended family.

The questions that linger in our minds are: When will we get the chance to see each other again? How will our sendoff be?  Will we keep in contact after we move away? Is this move a smart decision, in the first place?
There are so many questions and so little time. As far as i’m feeling, I know that i’m very happy that both my husband and myself found jobs in Southern California and that we have already secured an apartment near by.  Actually, it’s a small duplex, but we will have a lot of privacy after living from apartment to apartment (for years on end), and then into my relatives home (for a few short weeks). There’s just nothing quite like moving into your own place.

Being who you want to be, walking around the way you want to, not having to censor your own speech, not being limited about what you can or can’t say over the phone, etc.  There’s a certain measure of freedom.

Don’t get me wrong, there are very few things  I love more than family, but at the same time, a person needs some time on their own, with privacy, and then they can get together with the rest of the family, whenever they choose to get together.

The trip here was a powerful lesson for us in many ways. So, that much is a blessing. I got reunited with family members I had never met before, got back in touch with family members who live overseas (whom I haven’t spoken to in years), and patched up a few battle wounds along the way.

But, I look forward to earning income again, working to make a living, changing people’s lives (as a teacher again), and attempting to have our family move forward, back in sunny Southern California.

Life has been very turbulent the last few years, so I’m really looking forward to finding some sort of a routine that we can get used to, with a lot of fun and good times thrown in.

We get so focused on all the things we must do, and goals we are trying to reach that we don’t seem to enjoy things NOW.  Why not enjoy now, because tomorrow isn’t guaranteed?

Honestly, the last few years were a blur for me, after endless problems, countless moves, being unhappy for so many reasons, we are blessed in so many ways, and must appreciate all that we have.

And even if we have nothing, we must look forward to starting a-new. Starting all over with a brand new life and leaving the old one behind.

I hope with this move back to Southern California, we are able to start a new chapter of our lives. Scratch that, throw away the old book and open up a fresh new, crisp book.  That is what will make my heart happy…

As of a few days ago, both my husband and I were offered teaching positions in a great private school in Pomona, California. We were very happy of coarse, because with the economy being the way it is, it’s been really difficult for people to keep jobs, let alone find jobs.

But, now it’s back to packing up the little bit we just barely unpacked, having my husband find us an apartment in the area (around the school) and having him fly back to Indiana, and then we’ll all drive to California together.  We’ve then got to get somewhat situated before the school year starts and the chaos begins.

I hope he finds an apartment soon, because that will make things much easier for 0ur son and myself  if we come to a home that is already established.

I also have some friends asking around about good apartments in the area, as well as asking around about daycare/babysitting for our son for a few hours a day, when both my husband’s work hours and mine overlap and we’re not able to watch him for that short while.

This will be the first time since my son was born that I’ve had to work outside of the home, and it’ll be my first time leaving him with someone else. I have a certain amount of anxiety about this, but at the same time, I’m telling myself that he needs the social interaction with other kids and we need to earn a living to get a foot up on making a big change in our lives.

I sure hope I find a good daycare/babysitter and that things will go smoothly.  But, time will tell!

I recently saw the photo of a good friend, on one of the social networking websites and I realized how good she looked after a little pruning.  It made me think to myself, “When was the last time  I colored or cut my hair?”

I think something about a woman makes her want to always look good, and nearly stop at nothing to get it done. A fresh cut and color does just the right thing to make a person feel refreshed, renewed and ready for a change.

Due to the current economy, tons of stores are offering coupon deals for these things, as well as major discounts for Summer clothes, since it’s nearly at an end. This is the time to gather up the pennies you have lying around the house, and use it for something useful. Buy yourself some new clothes, and get rid of the old raddy outfits you’ve been wearing for years.

Did you ever sit around and realize that most women get prepared to go out, by taking a shower, blowdrying their hair, possibly flat ironing their hair as well, putting a full face of makeup on, and then wearing their nicest clothes, as well as spritzing themselves with their favorite perfume’s before going out?

And what do they do when they want to stay home and rest with their spouse and kids?  They just wear the nastiest, biggest, most-unattractive and quite frankly hideous clothes they can find around the house, since they deem them as comfortable.  The thing is, don’t you want to keep on attracting the one you love? Don’t you think that if you look good, smell good, feel good, you’ll be a happier more joyful person to be around?

So, while you sit and ponder the accuracy of my statements, surf online for something new to purchase and go out and get it! Within reason of coarse!

Since we started this journey and are preparing for the move, it’s been really stressful, busy, tiring, and nerve wracking.

I e-mailed, called and told people (by mouth) about all the stuff going on in my life and how busy I am with everything.  Do you know, that NOBODY offered to help us with the move, or cleaning? (forgive me if I forgot someONE who did, )

It makes me realise that most people are in it for the taking and are not willing to help, even if for just a few hours to help a family out.

I just barely re-emailed everyone I know and let them know I’m seeking help from any person willing to give it, in our area.  I hope to hear some responses back… But, I won’t be holding my breath.

Packing and prepping is not fun at all, no one likes to do it, but if someone helps someone else, it makes things easier on both parties, not more difficult.

So, if you’re out there and willing to help! Come on down! We’d be ever so grateful for your help!

With the recent shocking losses of several famous figures, many people are thinking quite deeply about their own mortality.  It usually takes a big shock from the loss of a star, or someone close to us, to push us to the brinks of contemplating our own death.

It’s a normal part of life, where on one hand there’s new life, there’s also death on the other.  When a person looks inward and figures out what they are leaving behind them, it may reprioritise their lives.

When we are gone, will we be: missed, loved, leave everyone we know saddened about our loss, will we have made certain people’s lives better (during our lifetimes), did we donate enough, did we care enough, did we always lend a listening ear, did we do things for the sake of good or did we do things just to selfishly prosper on our own and we forget about everyone else?

These questions and a lot more come to mind when thinking of  mortality…

So, before you take someone’s death lightly next time, remember that we don’t have any guarantee on how long we will live, so instead of living selfishly today, be sure to do things that will make a difference in the life of others, to rest somewhat peacefully once you’re gone.