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When everything seems to hit the fan, it is very hard to keep positive and see the lights at the end of the tunnel.
But, with a lot of hard work, perseverance, and the stubbornness to continue through all those tough times, you can make it!  Don’t give up once things turn ugly, just look at it in a different light. Maybe you were meant to learn something from the situation.

I choose to think positive, to a fault sometimes, but I refuse to see everything negatively. That’s why when someone is outright cruel to me, or hurtful, it really affects me for years to come.

Remember, if you ever tell someone something that you regretted saying later, you owe them an apology. Bite your pride and learn to keep your anger or anxiety to yourself because honestly, everyone else is just muddling through life and your harsh words could send them over the deep end.

But, if you say something like, “I’m having a really horrible day, and I might be snappy or hurtful to you, but don’t take it personally,” it may really help someone out who may have been hurt by something you said previously, that wasn’t really meant in their direction, but it got picked up that way!

So, the next time you act as if the world is going to come to an end because something you didn’t want to happen, did- just remember it’s a phase and you’ll pass through it just like you passed through everything else…

Often times, we get busy with life and lose contact with friends and family that we care for.  It’s not so much that we’re not interested in keeping ties, it’s more that we’re preoccupied with whatever issues are surrounding us: kids, money, marriage, health, work, college, etc.

But, there is always a real need for people to keep in touch and keep the ties strong, even if things weren’t always perfect, or if the relatives/friends have moved away, or some other circumstance has come to pass.

It surely is nice to get a phone call from someone you weren’t expecting a phone call from. Case and point, a friend of mine called me yesterday to check up on me, having recieved an e-mail that we got to Indiana safely. She wasn’t able to call earlier, but she got a chance to call yesterday. We did some catching up and it felt great.

I decided later that night that I would call all the folks that I cared about, and if I ran out of time, I’d finish calling people tonight.  I waited until the house was quite, and my son was asleep to make those important phone calls. I called almost everyone on my list yesterday and have yet to call a few today. I hope to keep in contact with all those folks that I care so much about.

It’s nice just to be able to pick up the phone and call somone you care about. Saying the words made famous by Stevie Wonder, “I just called to say I love you.”

You never know, it may make someone else’s day, let alone your own!

Often times people are so set in their ways, they often don’t use the proper responses to when someone is helping them or doing something to aid them, and it isn’t to their liking.  They immediately jump on what the person may or may not be doing wrong, compared to the way they would have done it.

I consider it quite rude for someone to criticize another person, although they are attempting to help with the situation (whatever it may be).  Let them do it their own way, while they watch you do it your way and they’ll eventually learn the whole thing and how you want it to be.

But, when you go out of your way to make them feel an inch tall, they might not even offer to help you or anyone else again.

Case and point, I recently helped a relative cook dinner.  I do it a bit differently that this person does it, but I was criticized and somewhat humiliated because I didn’t do it the “right way”, which of coarse was “their way”.  Never mind you that I have a Culinary Degree, graduating at the top of my class, or that I have years of Culinary experience before and after Culinary school.  Nope, I just didn’t do it right (in their eyes).

But then, when a third party came in and saw the result of what we had both cooked,  she looked at the food I had prepared versus the food that the other person prepared, then she criticized the other person’s food. Then the accuser felt the sting of harsh words and criticism, but I thought she needed a little taste of her own medicine, so I sat back in bliss.

Karma- what goes around comes around…

All too often people are under stress or dealing with a situation they’d rather not be in, that seems to fray their nerves and leave them open for completely having a meltdown once the smallest things happens. But then when someone does something that doesn’t strike their fancy, even if it’s the slightest little thing, they seem to go off the deep end.

They scream, shout, curse, say horribly hurtful things, and it is just plain ugly. Once the problem has passed, the offender usually is back to their perky selves, but the person who was verbally attacked, still has to deal with the pain they felt because of all the hurtful words being flung at them.

If you or someone you know is angry, just leave them alone until they can get over their little “hissy-fit” and then when they are back to their “normal” personality, you can ask them what was wrong and go from there.

My advice is to stay as far away from people who are extremely angry and seeing red, so that you spare yourself the grief and speak to them when their minds are back on the track to sanity not insanity.

Just my opinion, but think about it next time before you blow up on innocent bystanders, because you wouldn’t want the tables turned and someone to attack you for no good reason, now would you?

I must say that one of my pet peeves is when someone makes an opinion about someone else, without getting to know them first. Sure at first site, the person may seem one way, but once you really get to know them they may be completely different than you originally assumed.

I know many instances where people around me didn’t even give the other person a chance to prove themselves, before thinking the worst about them.  It really ruffles my feathers, in fact, and I try my best to put a stop to it immediately. It is never appropriate nor is it ever forgiving.  I try my best to get to know the person before assuming anything, either good or bad.

So, the next time you jump to conclusions and decide something about someone, that you barely even know, remember that there is someone on this planet that is doing the very same thing to you and it wouldn’t feel good if you found out that you were being criticized before ever doing something.

Always give your fellow human beings the benefit of the doubt and learn things about them before thinking anything in particular.  No one wants to be judged in advance, and I don’t think it’s an honorable thing to do.  Think twice before assuming things, you will find you are much more open to learning instead of judging.